6. The perfect first date.

The first date is always important. When you want to start dating someone, the first date is when they decide if they want to keep dating you. Will you get a second chance, a second date? If you follow my advice you will.

Keep in mind that the point of the first date is to get to know each other. How do you do that? It's simple. You talk. Therefore, going to a concert on the first date isn't the best thing to do. Neither is going to the movies, unless you are planning a dinner first. For a girl, a perfect first date is something that's different, something that shows that you've got an imagination. The perfect first date is when she feels you two connect. When she gets to know you and likes what she sees. She might want it to be a little romantic, and she will definitively want it to be a date to remember. Now, how do you do this? Well, you follow a couple simple rules.

1. First of all, get to know her. Talk a lot and listen a lot. It's very important that she feels like you are communicating well. You make her feel this by listening to her and asking her questions about what she is telling you. Also share some things about you with her. But remember to not share everything! Being a bit mystical is still a must on the first date. Remember what I told you in my other post, http://dating-guide4men.blogspot.com/2008/12/dating-get-her-to-say-yes_06.html

2. You want her to feel beautiful. This one is easy. When there is a pause in your conversation, keep your eyes on hers, really look deep down there, and when she looks down, blushes or asks you what, tell her: "You are beautiful." She will love it. Remember, no matter what she says after, try not to linger too long. Talk about something else. If you do, it will seem like an impulse that just came to mind. That will make it so much better.

3. You don't want to be cheap! No matter what your date says or how much she protests, YOU PAY EVERYTHING! If she tries to protest, tell her you invited her so it's your job to pay. If she invited you, tell her that she did all the hard work, working up the nerve to the invite, so then it's your duty to at least pay. It will charm her, trust me. And doing this is an excellent way of convincing her you're not poor, AND that you're generous. Women dislike cheap men.

4. You don't want to talk about sex. This is pretty straight forward. All the guys out there talk about sex or hint to it. Be different. We women are tired of having to chase men away with clubs, and having them make crude comments or brag about how good they are in bed etc. If you are shocked that men do this, then GOOD! That means you are not one of those guy. And if you are, then you will just have to hide it. Trust me on this. Guys have talked dirty to me so many times, told me crude jokes and invited me to bed before the first date, and let me tell you. It's not impressing.

5. Don't talk about your ex girlfriend. It will only make her think you come with luggage and you don't want that. Guys who talk about their exes to girls they have just started dating, is either not over the last girl, or they want to make the new one jealous. She will see straight through it so just drop it. I will put together a post another day to let you know the best way to make her jealous. You will not want to miss out on that one, it will work wonders for you.

6. Finally, be creative. It doesn't have to be a big deal. It can simply be taking her out on a late picnic, watching the sunset or something like that. But make sure you let her know you will be outside so she can pick out her clothing. She will appreciate it. And bring a blanket in case she gets cold.

Some things to do on a first date:
- Fancy restaurant (might be awkward if you're not the most chatty guy - again, will make a post on good topics for a date)
- Going horse back riding (really nice of both of you like horses and you have taken a lesson or two before)
- Dinner and a movie (try a not too fancy restaurant where you can be yourself and laugh and have fun, and if it's too quiet, you can leave earlier, walk to the movies instead of driving or taking a cab, and in the movies you want have to talk if you don't have anything to talk about)
- Midnight picnic (really nice. First guy who took me got a lot of brownie points if you know what I mean)
- Daylight picnic (make it a group activity and bring a football if you think it's going to be awkward)
- Going bowling (if the girl is sporty, this is almost always fun)
- Take a walk on the beach and buy a slice of pizza or a hot dog (most women love walking on the beach)
- Cook her a nice dinner and suggest a movie at home after (this will be a great opportunity to show off your domestic skills. We adore a man who can cook and watching a movie at home later give you a perfect excuse to snuggle/get a little touchy feely. I have to warn you though, don't do anything before you know she wants you to. How do you know? I will tell you in a later post)
- Take her to a funfair or an amusement park. (this is both funny, and she will cling to you when the rides scare her. What more can you ask for?)
-Take her dancing. (This you might want to wait with till your second date in case she is shy or thinks you want some action. But if she suggests it, then by all means, go go go!)
- Take her to play some pool (but only do this if you are fairly good. You can enjoy teaching her, standing behind her and innocently let her know how to handle the stick. She might find this exciting, and you can tell her: "The looser makes dinner for the winner, deal?". This way you just secured yourself another date! Pretty clever of you guys.)

If you need some more suggestions, let me know and I'll come back to you.

Ok guys. Keep in mind everything you have learned, and do what I told you here. If you do, you will definitively get a second date. My next post will be about what to talk about on a date (think, not sure yet) but if you want me to write about something in particular, please let me know.

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