Thursday 11 December 2008

4. Get her to say yes - continues


The Dating Guide for men continues with the next 5 rules you should follow. If you didn’t read my previous post i strongly suggest you read that one before you continue with this one.

4. You want to be charming and funny, but not vulgar
5. You want it to seem as if you like talking to her, but you're not overly interested
6. You want her to think you are listening to everything she says
7. you want her to feel like you understand her
8. And you want her to feel good, but at the same time a little confused

4. Let me explain dating rule number four. It's not that hard, really. When it comes to dating, most women appreciate humour. Now as you know, everyone’s humour is different. Therefore it's important that you feel her out a little, what makes her laugh. Does she prefer stupid funny, intelligent humour, British humour, imitations or what? One thing that is sure to make her frown, is vulgarism. Do not try to be funny by saying: "Your boobs are really nice and big, do you think i could borrow them if i ever happen to find myself in the danger of drowning?" Trust me, no woman is going to laugh at that.. Instead, try and be yourself and make jokes at your own expense. People almost always laugh about other peoples flaws, or stupid things they have done. Be careful not to make her think you feel sorry about yourself, and don't reveal any weaknesses unless they are very harmless. You should instead make a joke about being a poor driver (but only if you're not, get the drift?) Say for example: I'm such a poor driver. The other day i was driving to the store, and this old lady suddenly appeared almost right in front of me. So i stepped on the brakes, and the frail little lady gave me the finger and yelled that i was an asshole. I told her i really was a nice guy, but a very poor driver." Now this might not be hilarious, but i bet if you sat down and thought about it, you could come up with lots of funny stories your date would appreciate. Dating is about having fun, and she definitively will if you manage to stick to these type of jokes. One last thing, if you are very smart and tell her intelligent jokes, and if she doesn’t get it, laugh and say you didn't really get it either, but you think it sounded smart. You don't want her to feel stupid.

5. This one can be harder, but not impossible. If you want to start dating a girl, you want her to want you. You do this by playing hard to get in a very subtle way. If you read my other posts, you know what I'm talking about. Anyways, when you talk to her, smile and nod when she talks, keep eye contact, listen to what she says and ask question about her stories or her life when you can. But don't look at other parts of her than her eyes. If you look at her boobs or lips or even stare at her neck, she will know you want her. Avoid this. Seem interested in what she has to say, but don't seem interested in her. If you do that, she's going to be curious as to why you don’t seem attracted to her, something that makes you a challenge, and all girls love a challenge. See, dating is actually very easy.

6. It's very easy to make her think you are listening to her. Just pay attention, have eye contact, and when she tells you different things, make sure to put in a: yes, oh, really, wow, that sounds nice etc every now and again. And make sure you ask her questions about what it is she is telling you. That way, she will know you are actually listening to her, and she will feel like you respect her. Respect is very important when it comes to dating.

7. When you want a girl to want to start dating you, you will, at some point, have to show her that you are nice and understanding. This you simply do by listening to her, asking her questions, and just try your best to see what she is telling you about from your perspective. No magic or great tips here, just do the best you can. But the point is, when you do actually understand something, tell her you understand or comment on it.

8. This one is tricky. How do you make her feel good but also a little confused about what you really want. Well, you keep in mind everything I have taught you. If she thinks you are listening, and if you keep your attention on her, keep eye contact etc, she will feel good because she will think you like as a person, you respect her and you are interested in what she has to say. Also, she will have fun and she will be curious about you and feel attracted to you. We girls are very weird. We can think you butt ugly one minute, but when you turn out to be a funny, charming guy, we can suddenly think you are the sexiest man alive. It's all in our heads, and if you win our heads and our hearts, you will be the most beautiful man in the world to us. Anyways, about the confused part. She will be slightly confused, because you haven't showed any interest in sleeping with her, or shown her that you are attracted to her.

That was all for today folks. In my next dating article I'm going to reveal some of our (the women of the earth) secrets.

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