3. Get her to say yes!

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Ok guys, we will continue where we left off (if you didn’t read my previous post about dating i suggest you do before you move on)

In my last post about dating we got as far as getting the hot girls attention. If you want to actually start dating her then you have to get her to say yes. How do you do that? It's actually not that hard. The first thing you have to do is to talk to her. I know it might go against what I told you, seeing as you're not allowed to seem interested in her, but it is possible to do if you just know how. Yes, dating is a bit complicated. When she looks at you (and believe, me she will after you just ignored her like I told you to in my other dating advice article) you will look back in a polite manner and ask her in a neutral, but gentle voice: "Can I help you?" She will probably either blush or stutter a little, but if she's not of the bold kind, she will say no. But this doesn't stop you, gentlemen. You are, after all, dating experts now. So with smile you say: "I could have sworn you looked puzzled." If you could manage something like that then you do me proud, because this is a great opening to a conversation. Dating is such an easy thing when you just know what to expect.

The conversation is rolling, your mind is wandering and you are just looking forward to start dating her. Whatever you do, don't let her know that you are secretly thinking about how good she would look without her clothes on. Don’t stare at her lips, at her neck or her breast. Try to keep eye contact, but not stare. If you think the eye contact is difficult, then glance at the bartender, order another drink, but make sure that if you do order yourself one you have to ask her if she wants one too. If not, you will look like a cheap bastard. You never want to look cheap to someone you want to start dating. Anyways... the conversation is rolling and your eyes are behaving themselves. What you want to do is this:

1. You want to seem a little mystical, not reveal too much
2. You want to appear humble, but confident
3. You want her to think you are successful without you bragging about it
4. You want to be charming and funny, but not vulgar
5. You want it to seem as if you like talking to her, but you're not overly interested
6. You want her to think you are listening to everything you say
7. you want her to feel like you understand her
8. And you want her to feel good, but at the same time a little confused

1. Now, I want to explain to you have you do this. Too seem mystical isn’t that hard and it’s important when you’re dating. All you have to do is answer her questions without revealing too much. If she asks you what you like to do in your spare time, tell her you have many different activities, and you like to keep active. Mention perhaps that among other things, you really enjoy a good book. Then if she asks you what more you like to do, smile and say: "Enough about me, what do you like to do?" Let her lead the conversation, avoid some questions simply by asking them back at her, and let her wonder what you are hiding. Trust me; she will want to find out. This dating advice is very important and everyone who has a clue about dating will know that I'm right.

2. So how do you appear both humble and confident? Both is important when it comes to dating. Let's to the humble thing first, shall we? Don’t brag, don't lie to make yourself look better, don't act as if you think you are better than anyone, and don’t criticise the other guys in the bar. It shouldn't be too difficult. Appearing confident, on the other hand, is something a couple people struggle with. But don’t you worry! I'm here to teach you about dating, and during all my years dating lots of different guys, I now recognise a confident man miles away. Rule number one: Always look people in the eyes and don’t be the first to look down or away. Always keep your head up (not like you think you own the world, but don’t look down). Keep your back straight, a good posture is important. Don't let your eyes wander too much, keep them steady. And please, watch your hands! Don't fidget with things, keep one in your pocket and the other on your glass, or keep them by your side or whatever feels comfortable as long as you don’t move them around all the time. If you do all this you will seem confident. And in dating, confidence is a must.

3. This one is tricky. Women want to start dating successful guys. Making her believe you are one without bragging about it is not that easy. You definitively don’t want her to think you are bragging. So you must be clever. When she asks you what you do for a living, just answer with about five words. Like: "I am in marketing". When she then ask you what in marketing, you can say something very positive about your position. Like "Well, I'm kind of like the manager, trying to make sure everything goes around, you know". This way, you sound humble, and you didn’t mention this until she asked you about it. If she asks you if it's money in that sort of thing, you give her a big grin and say "Well, I’m not exactly poor". She will think it means you make a lot of money, but if you don’t, you never lied to her. So it's a good trick for dating. Dating, when it's just starting up, is often about mystique and making yourself look good. It sounds horrible, but it's true.

4. I’m sorry people but I’m very tired now. I will tell you about the next 5 points in my next article about dating, coming up in about a day. For now, thank you for reading my dating tips on The Dating Guide for men, and I hope this helps you and makes your dating life easier.