4. Get her to say yes - continues

The Dating Guide for men continues with the next 5 rules you should follow. If you didn’t read my previous post i strongly suggest you read that one before you continue with this one.

4. You want to be charming and funny, but not vulgar
5. You want it to seem as if you like talking to her, but you're not overly interested
6. You want her to think you are listening to everything she says
7. you want her to feel like you understand her
8. And you want her to feel good, but at the same time a little confused

4. Let me explain dating rule number four. It's not that hard, really. When it comes to dating, most women appreciate humour. Now as you know, everyone’s humour is different. Therefore it's important that you feel her out a little, what makes her laugh. Does she prefer stupid funny, intelligent humour, British humour, imitations or what? One thing that is sure to make her frown, is vulgarism. Do not try to be funny by saying: "Your boobs are really nice and big, do you think i could borrow them if i ever happen to find myself in the danger of drowning?" Trust me, no woman is going to laugh at that.. Instead, try and be yourself and make jokes at your own expense. People almost always laugh about other peoples flaws, or stupid things they have done. Be careful not to make her think you feel sorry about yourself, and don't reveal any weaknesses unless they are very harmless. You should instead make a joke about being a poor driver (but only if you're not, get the drift?) Say for example: I'm such a poor driver. The other day i was driving to the store, and this old lady suddenly appeared almost right in front of me. So i stepped on the brakes, and the frail little lady gave me the finger and yelled that i was an asshole. I told her i really was a nice guy, but a very poor driver." Now this might not be hilarious, but i bet if you sat down and thought about it, you could come up with lots of funny stories your date would appreciate. Dating is about having fun, and she definitively will if you manage to stick to these type of jokes. One last thing, if you are very smart and tell her intelligent jokes, and if she doesn’t get it, laugh and say you didn't really get it either, but you think it sounded smart. You don't want her to feel stupid.

5. This one can be harder, but not impossible. If you want to start dating a girl, you want her to want you. You do this by playing hard to get in a very subtle way. If you read my other posts, you know what I'm talking about. Anyways, when you talk to her, smile and nod when she talks, keep eye contact, listen to what she says and ask question about her stories or her life when you can. But don't look at other parts of her than her eyes. If you look at her boobs or lips or even stare at her neck, she will know you want her. Avoid this. Seem interested in what she has to say, but don't seem interested in her. If you do that, she's going to be curious as to why you don’t seem attracted to her, something that makes you a challenge, and all girls love a challenge. See, dating is actually very easy.

6. It's very easy to make her think you are listening to her. Just pay attention, have eye contact, and when she tells you different things, make sure to put in a: yes, oh, really, wow, that sounds nice etc every now and again. And make sure you ask her questions about what it is she is telling you. That way, she will know you are actually listening to her, and she will feel like you respect her. Respect is very important when it comes to dating.

7. When you want a girl to want to start dating you, you will, at some point, have to show her that you are nice and understanding. This you simply do by listening to her, asking her questions, and just try your best to see what she is telling you about from your perspective. No magic or great tips here, just do the best you can. But the point is, when you do actually understand something, tell her you understand or comment on it.

8. This one is tricky. How do you make her feel good but also a little confused about what you really want. Well, you keep in mind everything I have taught you. If she thinks you are listening, and if you keep your attention on her, keep eye contact etc, she will feel good because she will think you like as a person, you respect her and you are interested in what she has to say. Also, she will have fun and she will be curious about you and feel attracted to you. We girls are very weird. We can think you butt ugly one minute, but when you turn out to be a funny, charming guy, we can suddenly think you are the sexiest man alive. It's all in our heads, and if you win our heads and our hearts, you will be the most beautiful man in the world to us. Anyways, about the confused part. She will be slightly confused, because you haven't showed any interest in sleeping with her, or shown her that you are attracted to her.

That was all for today folks. In my next dating article I'm going to reveal some of our (the women of the earth) secrets.

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3. Get her to say yes!

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Ok guys, we will continue where we left off (if you didn’t read my previous post about dating i suggest you do before you move on)

In my last post about dating we got as far as getting the hot girls attention. If you want to actually start dating her then you have to get her to say yes. How do you do that? It's actually not that hard. The first thing you have to do is to talk to her. I know it might go against what I told you, seeing as you're not allowed to seem interested in her, but it is possible to do if you just know how. Yes, dating is a bit complicated. When she looks at you (and believe, me she will after you just ignored her like I told you to in my other dating advice article) you will look back in a polite manner and ask her in a neutral, but gentle voice: "Can I help you?" She will probably either blush or stutter a little, but if she's not of the bold kind, she will say no. But this doesn't stop you, gentlemen. You are, after all, dating experts now. So with smile you say: "I could have sworn you looked puzzled." If you could manage something like that then you do me proud, because this is a great opening to a conversation. Dating is such an easy thing when you just know what to expect.

The conversation is rolling, your mind is wandering and you are just looking forward to start dating her. Whatever you do, don't let her know that you are secretly thinking about how good she would look without her clothes on. Don’t stare at her lips, at her neck or her breast. Try to keep eye contact, but not stare. If you think the eye contact is difficult, then glance at the bartender, order another drink, but make sure that if you do order yourself one you have to ask her if she wants one too. If not, you will look like a cheap bastard. You never want to look cheap to someone you want to start dating. Anyways... the conversation is rolling and your eyes are behaving themselves. What you want to do is this:

1. You want to seem a little mystical, not reveal too much
2. You want to appear humble, but confident
3. You want her to think you are successful without you bragging about it
4. You want to be charming and funny, but not vulgar
5. You want it to seem as if you like talking to her, but you're not overly interested
6. You want her to think you are listening to everything you say
7. you want her to feel like you understand her
8. And you want her to feel good, but at the same time a little confused

1. Now, I want to explain to you have you do this. Too seem mystical isn’t that hard and it’s important when you’re dating. All you have to do is answer her questions without revealing too much. If she asks you what you like to do in your spare time, tell her you have many different activities, and you like to keep active. Mention perhaps that among other things, you really enjoy a good book. Then if she asks you what more you like to do, smile and say: "Enough about me, what do you like to do?" Let her lead the conversation, avoid some questions simply by asking them back at her, and let her wonder what you are hiding. Trust me; she will want to find out. This dating advice is very important and everyone who has a clue about dating will know that I'm right.

2. So how do you appear both humble and confident? Both is important when it comes to dating. Let's to the humble thing first, shall we? Don’t brag, don't lie to make yourself look better, don't act as if you think you are better than anyone, and don’t criticise the other guys in the bar. It shouldn't be too difficult. Appearing confident, on the other hand, is something a couple people struggle with. But don’t you worry! I'm here to teach you about dating, and during all my years dating lots of different guys, I now recognise a confident man miles away. Rule number one: Always look people in the eyes and don’t be the first to look down or away. Always keep your head up (not like you think you own the world, but don’t look down). Keep your back straight, a good posture is important. Don't let your eyes wander too much, keep them steady. And please, watch your hands! Don't fidget with things, keep one in your pocket and the other on your glass, or keep them by your side or whatever feels comfortable as long as you don’t move them around all the time. If you do all this you will seem confident. And in dating, confidence is a must.

3. This one is tricky. Women want to start dating successful guys. Making her believe you are one without bragging about it is not that easy. You definitively don’t want her to think you are bragging. So you must be clever. When she asks you what you do for a living, just answer with about five words. Like: "I am in marketing". When she then ask you what in marketing, you can say something very positive about your position. Like "Well, I'm kind of like the manager, trying to make sure everything goes around, you know". This way, you sound humble, and you didn’t mention this until she asked you about it. If she asks you if it's money in that sort of thing, you give her a big grin and say "Well, I’m not exactly poor". She will think it means you make a lot of money, but if you don’t, you never lied to her. So it's a good trick for dating. Dating, when it's just starting up, is often about mystique and making yourself look good. It sounds horrible, but it's true.

4. I’m sorry people but I’m very tired now. I will tell you about the next 5 points in my next article about dating, coming up in about a day. For now, thank you for reading my dating tips on The Dating Guide for men, and I hope this helps you and makes your dating life easier.

2. How to approach her.

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Dating is easy. It doesn’t have to mean lots of work for you guys, if only you know which buttons to push. First of all, some small facts about women.

1. We want to work for it and we want a challenge.
2. We don’t like arrogant guys, but we love it when he's confident. Fine line there guys.
3. We want you to be interested, but not too interested, and not right away.
4. We want compliments, but not phony ones and they better not be from lousy pick up lines.
5. We want you to dress well!!!! Very important! See my post dating with style if you are in doubt.
6. We don’t want you to brag or tell us about your success with other women.
7. We hate it when you're not polite.
8. We hate it even more if you grab us before we give you the signals that it's ok to touch us.
9. We love it when you make us laugh.
10. We adore men who makes us feel like the most beautiful woman in the room.
11. We love charming men and men who knows how to make a woman feel special

Now don't worry if you're not charming, or if you're bad with words or any of the other things at this list. That’s why I'm here. This blog is for teaching you guys all about dating and women. If there is something you want to know that you're not reading here, it will most likely turn up in one of my other posts about dating.

Back to the topic at hand. One of the most important rules about dating is: You have to work on it without seeming too. It means that when you chase a girl, you have to make her thing you're not really that interested. It's the dating rule number one! Lets say you walk into a bar. You are looking for someone to start dating, or maybe just someone to have some fun with. You see lots of women, but there is one in particular. This beautiful, perfect girl that you would just die to get your hands on. You really want to start dating her! Instead of walking up to her you probably think something along the lines of: "She's way too hot to ever start dating someone like me. Lets try the plain girl in the corner". This is WRONG! When it comes to dating, confidence is a must! You have to be able to walk straight up to hottest girl in the room and not feel threatened. Now how do you do this? I'll tell you the secret.

When you walk into the room and you see this hot girl, chances are she is used to lots of attention and crude remarks. She wont like this, trust me. I have been groped more times than i can count, and i think i have heard every single pick up line there is, and let me tell you something... It isn't that impressive. We never start dating guys who does that. What you want is to make her remember you after you are gone, but because you were original or charming, not because you insulted her and she know hates your guts. If you want to start dating the really hot girls, follow my advice. So lets say the girl is sitting by the bar. One thing to do in this scenario is to position yourself right by her, glance at her once (AT HER FACE!!!! I cant stress this enough, resist the urge to give her a once over, meet her eyes, let your eyes wander over her face, then look away). Pretend you're not interested, that what you saw didn’t really tempt you. When a hot girl who is used to attention suddenly doesn’t get any, she will be curious and she will want you to notice her. Trust me on this, I am the exact same way.

After you have done this she will definitively have noticed you, which is exactly what you want. Now the next thing to do on the dating advice list, you will find in my next post, comming up soon:)

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1. Dating with style

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Before you start dating there are certain things you should do. First of all, you need to make yourself presentable. You might think: "Dooh, that's something everyone knows about dating, get to the point, will ya?" but you would be amazed at all the guys out there who shows up for their date looking like they have just woken up. No matter what girls say, they do judge you based on your appearance and the first impression counts just as much, if not more, than the actual date. So... trim your beard, go to the hairdresser, cut your nails, get tweezers for those nose hairs and go out and get yourself some nice shoes. Yes, women do care about the shoes you men use, especially if she is going to be dating you. If you not yet have a date, you need to go and get one. You might already have one in mind, maybe a girl at work, or the hot girl at your gym. If that’s the case then great! You are one step closer to dating, but if you don’t you need to go and get one. "How do I get someone to start dating me?" I can hear you asking. Well, it's actually quite simple. If you want the perfect date, and you want to start dating for real, then you need to get a girl interested. So let’s say you're going to a club to meet a girl. The big question is, what do you wear? Well you would want women to notice you, and to think you look good, but not like you are trying to hard. One of the best things to wear is actually very simple. Simple but cool jeans, nice shoes (can be sneakers as long as they look good without any holes in them, or something nicer), and a white or black shirt, depending on the colour of your jeans. Perfect dating clothes. This is both stylish and cool, but it doesn’t scream "I try to hard and I'm desperate for a date!" kind of thing. So when you are well groomed and you have removed those nose hairs, then you are ready for the actual challenge of getting a girl to agree to a date. Let me tell you, it's not as hard as it may seem. In my next post about dating, i'm going to let you know just how you can, without to much trouble, get a girl to agree to go on a date with you, and, eventually, start dating you for real.

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